DEAR AMY: My boyfriend and I have been together for two years.
He has a beautiful daughter whom I have a great relationship with. He moved in with me about eight months ago.
He and I are 12 years apart, and at times I second-guess his maturity.
I know he loves me and I love him dearly, but his temper can really make me second-guess everything too easily.
He likes to go out with friends about three times a week. When he comes home, I tend to get very nervous and begin questioning what I might have done wrong to get him upset.
It can be anything from not blow-drying my hair, to leaving a piece of his mail on his side of the bed.
I understand some men like their women to do things for them, and I want to do things for him. But that piece of mail turns into a pile of garbage in his eyes, because it starts an argument of why am I so lazy. He claims I don’t do anything for him or think of anyone but myself. Then he begins to express that’s why I’m so overweight and he body shames me in every way a man can.
I will take the bait occasionally and speak up for myself, but his anger takes over and he’s never wrong. Other times I simply stay quiet and he goes on and on.
I love this man and I try so hard to sleep these things off. But I find myself becoming an angry person being around him while he’s upset.
I know I’m not naturally an angry person, so there has to be something we can do to keep this from happening all the time.
Can you help me with this?
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