DEAR AMY: I need some perspective.
My fiancee broke up with me for a two-week period, for seemingly no reason. She was apparently going through family issues and felt she couldn’t be a good girlfriend while coping with all of that.
During that break, my best (guy) friend sent her a nasty text about how poor this decision was and how much she “didn’t deserve” me.
My fiancee and I got back together soon after his text was sent.
The problem is she still holds a grudge against my best friend because she feels he shouldn’t have gotten involved.
In my eyes, he was just being a friend, but it’s gotten to the point where she doesn’t even want him at the wedding, where I want him to be my best man. I’ve tried talking to both of them and he’s willing to bury the hatchet if she is, but she’s not, and is holding a grudge. What should I do?
Groom to Be
DEAR GROOM: I’m not going to react the way your friend did, but before moving on to your question, I do think it is important for you to recognize your fiancee’s behavior as being worthy of scrutiny. She dropped you suddenly and without explanation. I assume you trust her to stick with you now?
Your guy friend should not have sent this text. His choice to do so illustrates the wisdom of not being triggered and reactive when responding to someone else’s personal situation.
However, even if it was a mistake — surely your fiancee could understand that loyalty toward you drove his behavior. She might have friends (or be a friend) with…
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