Those who understand grief is necessary are likely to recover more rapidly:
• Understand you were not selected for woes and suffering, and that grief is a temporary avenue toward resumption of your healthy self.
• Accept that your emotional and/or physical pain will subside with time.
• Reassure yourself that though you are grieving now, you are on the path to resuming a state of wellness.
• Reassure others that your “old” self will resurface in due time and that their patience and support expedite your healing.
• Be kind to yourself in thoughts and actions through your recovery.
Most people have at least a few challenges in life. Whether their afflictions are physical, mental, emotional, social, familial, relational, vocational or personal, they may feel angry, hurt and even victimized by their hardships. Yet, others, who face similar or even harsher conditions, cope with greater resilience. What are the factors that promote resiliency and how can we adopt healthier coping techniques?
Perhaps the most obvious self-misery element is self-pity. Some allow themselves to sink into wallowing in thoughts and feelings of “poor me”, “Why did this happen to me?” or, “Why am I being punished with pain, disease, loss, loneliness, fear or life-hardships?” Those who approach life’s hardships in these ways tend to have an extended period of seeking for answers beyond the common grieving period. They often encounter longer recovery and…
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